What do women want?

Men are asking this question(mostly to other men) for years. And looks like none of them got any answer yet.
I will tell you and it is not very difficult.
Women want different things from different people , at different times. See, it goes like this. A girl will always be a girl to her parents, hence this particular question does not arise. When a girl gets married and enters womanhood, then the argument starts.


Many relations have different opinions here. Some in-laws, her maid(Kamwali is very important relation for a woman, particularly in India), her boss, her colleagues, her kid's teacher and few more. But the main culprit(!!) here, who is asking this question again & again, is "The Husband".
Her life revolves around her husband, forever. She changes so much for him and yet he asks ," oh god, what do u want exactly?" Ok Sir, here is list and she wants one(or more) of that::
1>love, and when I say love , I mean some gesture or a word of love, "everyday".
2>Understanding, she is already doing lots of things simultaneously (be in India or America). If you try to grasp her pressure a bit and try to adjust your own demands accordingly, then that will be called as  "Understanding"
3>appreciation, few words like "wow" or "good job", will go a long way.
4>gifts, and no I am not telling to spend money but small things, surprise her with a hot cup of tea or take kids to class one day or help her to put groceries away. These are "big" gifts in todays world.
5>acceptance, wife from "n" years of marriage(n= 1......100) wants acceptance. She just wants to know that she is your partner. Its ok to express that in words. Its ok to say "My life is so unreal when you are not around" & believe me these are not "filmy" words.


See, its not very difficult. Small things to do, but it has to be a consistent operation. Just sitting next to her and holding her hand(for no other intention) will make her so happy. Some day just say "You are looking so beautiful"(again no other intention), and she will smile so beautifully. Go out for a walk with her, without mobile(no calls, no SMS, no WhatsApp), she will remember that walk forever.


Maintaining any relationship is not a very easy task. But this particular relation is lifelong(or for seven lives), and she is already doing a lot work towards it, So put some more efforts.


Maybe men might be having different or opposite thinking than this, still lets not forget women never ask "What do men want" ☺


Henny Youngman has said "The secret of a happy marriage remains a secret".


   

Grass is always greener on the other side.........

One of the neighborhood girls was waiting for her school bus, ready in uniform, shoes and plaited hair. She looked at my daughter, who was wearing pajamas, flip-flops and open hair, and the immediate reaction was ,"wow, you are so lucky. You are on vacation". ☺ Well, she happily forgot when she was enjoying mangoes in her "vacation", my daughter was going through exams and projects. But this is what we all do, isn't it? And hence the phrase "Grass is always....."


Lets sit back for a moment and think about it. Why never-ever we think that if Sun and water are on my side then my side grass will be green too.
It is always better or easier to think somebody else is luckier than "me". I have to struggle so much and yet I don't see the expected result. But the question is if our "expected" itself is wrong and what I get is correct? I definitely know it is very easy(for me)to write all that "blah blah....", implementation is really difficult part. Yet I have to try, we have to try to change the color of grass from our side. Life is (always and everywhere) full of comparisons.  But instead of comparing it with somebody else's life, isn't it good to compare with our own life? My Grandma(Aaji) used to tell me that ,"if you can change time machine and go back 5 years, think what all you can change into better. Now, you start acting good so you don't have to use time machine after 5 years"......Yah it was little difficult to digest in college days, but now I really wish, I can work on it.
Lets hope that one fine day, we(particularly myself) will say ,"You are so lucky to live in garden of roses, but jasmine from my patio is beautiful too  "☺
And who knows we all will have green grass everywhere.


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but then they might start "Grass is soft and yellow on the other side......."

Love.....♥

What does Love mean? Well, dictionary says Love is affection and much more. I think everybody has their own definition for that. A mother might say love is getting worried when your kid is late from school, a teacher might say love is feeling proud of your student when they do well or somebody who loves  Salman Khan might say love is enjoying his movie.
I too have my own definitions. Yah, its more than one as it is applicable for many people in my life.


Love for parents is emotional in its own different way. When they are getting older , though we feel a bit sad for their fragileness, we should feel proud for their life and the life they gave us. The relaxation when we sit with them and remember old days, is love.


Love for kids is sweet like Cadbury. When your baby holds your hand and expects nothing but a smile from you is love. When your toddler happily claps for your dinosaur picture(which actually looks like a tree or sea horse or modern art), that is love. When your teen-ager introduces you to her friend(though it is a rare occasion) , that is love. And when your kid goes away for college or job and no age-bar you both cry, is love.


I have love for books too. Books make me very happy. It takes you to different world and you can be there till you want.


Other love is food. Eating anywhere, anytime(particularly Indian street food) and not thinking about falling sick is little insane but yummy love.


And then comes my love for Tennis. I love only this sport since I remember. Although I don't play or even hold racket in my hand, I have deep connection with the play, players and Grand Slams.


I can write about few(or more) loves of life.......But the special love is the bond which I am sharing with somebody for last 15 years. What is true love?? You don't have to hold each others hand all the time or talk to each other(only) all the time, but if a simple Good Morning message makes your face glitter, then that is love.


Somebody said "Not talking and yet understanding each other is love"  

Thank You ......

What good did I do today? Oh what a life?? I am thinking if I have done "a" good thing today or not. This is called as "Kaliyug".....☻


But yes, I did a nice(some people will find it sweet) thing today. Before going into details, let me tell you something about myself and my (dear) better half. We are not very expressive people, particularly in public. We love ♥ each other and all, we just don't say it often. Not only that but (according to me) we don't  say "Thank you" enough number of times. We both grew up in typical middle class families, where husband is assumed to do few jobs and so is wife. So, today morning when we were on railway station and I was holding my baby + one suitcase, my hubby dear came and said ," plz don't pick it up. Your back is already paining. Let me take it. "
Why this is a big deal??????   If he would have just taken bag from my hand, it would have been usual case. What makes difference is he gave me a real reason(or some people can say found it worth to mention a reason). Well, now that was his part of good deeds. What did I do? I wrote a nice and big Thank You note to him(which I definitely would not have done otherwise).




My mom always says, if you want to say Thnx or Sorry to anybody, do it immediately because you don't know if you will after some time.




Thank You Dear∗∗∗




P.S.
He found it very funny but that will be for another day's topic ☺

Lets change the title :)

Hii....


I am back after so many months.....


It so difficult to do new thing(s) everyday. Believe me, I tried for few days but it is really impossible. Although I like the quote "impossible is nothing but I m possible", in reality impossible rocks :)


So, I have decided lets change the title. It should not be difficult to do "at least" one good thing every day.


And today on 21st July of 2015(I know you can see date on my blog, I never doubt your eyes), I have taken a "good" decision.




My good decision is "to be happy", mostly all the time :)




There are so many negative things happening around us and they are affecting us a lot, though we may not realize it. People sometimes hurt our feelings. When this "sometimes" becomes frequent, we(I in particular) start believing my life is full of sad events. And suddenly life turns into difficult mode. What to do? I closed my eyes and was searching for some answer. And I remember once somebody told me "You are happy if you want to be happy". I have decided to be happy. It is a difficult job but not "impossible".............:)






One of the best quotes written by Maxim Gork "Happiness always looks small while you hold it in your hands, but let it go, and you learn at once how big and precious it is.”




















Be Happy, Don't Worry.


(not)Fifth day....

Some days are not great....it starts with sad sigh and ends with saddest sigh.......:(..........today's day made me realize few things(again) that made me feel down, so so down{and what a coincidence I was in downtown actually}......
I didn't do anything new and I dnt want to write anything good.........:(((

Fourth Day

Hola,

this is fourth day for my blog. I know its not continuous fourth day but its fourth time....:)

today one new thing I did : I drove our car alone. ok, let me explain(I like this part). I used to drive our previous car(corolla) when we were in our previous place. It was a small cute town, some people say village. The maximum speed limit was 35 mph. I was in love with my car and driving there was always great. But then we moved to this new and big place and we bought new car(Sienna). I was (kinda) afraid of traffic, highways and fast lanes. But today, my daughter said or she requested(more specific) that if I take her to school by car, she will be happy. and how can you say no to her...:). Anyways, so it was a new experience to drive alone with three kids behind(I have valid license BTW).

today one good thing I did : I helped an old lady(आजी) today. ok, Let me explain(again I really like this part). I was walking home and saw one old lady trying to put her bags in her car, holding oxygen tank in one hand. I know that she was much capable of doing things by herself and usually strangers are not supposed to go and talk/offer help. I still went and told her to let me put her bags in car. She said ok and in the end she called me "sweet gal". I am so used to being called "auntie" , I found it funny yet very sweet. Its always nice to be young..........:)

that's all for now,
Lets hope fifth day will be tomorrow.